Cutting off Toxic People

I recently cutting off toxic people from my life and surprise surprise… It feels good. After putting on lots of shit for couple of months which cost my mental health, I finally able to distance myself from the person.

Certain people just don’t deserve another chance, say people who’s pushing their wants, forcing connection and keep on crossing the boundaries.

Only when the person’s gone, I was able to feel my whole emotion again. Like this big heavy burden was lifted up. I feel like a human again not a zombie whose soul was being sucked off till the last drop.

Never realize how big the impact is for my inner peace when I started to set up boundaries and get rid of toxicity. It was one of the best decision ever. I am happy.

Learning How to Say No

I’m still learning the first line, comfortably. Garis bawahi kata comfortably alias nyaman. Dididik sama orang tua untuk harus selalu patuh dan kena omel abis-abisan kalo enggak nurut, bikin saya nggak nyaman buat menolak.

Saya terbiasa untuk speak up apa maunya saya dan nggak ada masalah dengan itu. Namun begitu ada orang yang minta tolong, ambyar semua. Saya nggak nyaman menolak. Sering merasa bersalah atau nggak enakan gitu kalo ada yang minta tolong. Say No itu tingkat kesulitannya (buat saya) sama kaya kalau saya lagi bikin itinerary liburan keluarga ke Korea atau itinerary jalan-jalan ke Kamboja :D. Ribet. Baca lebih lanjut